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hey this is Leo for actualised org and in this video I want to talk about how to feel good okay let's talk about how to feel good so what does it take to feel good in your life and if you're kind of asking yourself this question then I would assume that you're not feeling as good as you believe you could be that's good that's a good start because you probably could be feeling a lot better than you are feeling right now so how do we how do we tackle this problem all right well let's take a look at it like this so basically to feel good in your life means very simply to live your life good live a good life and you will feel good live a bad life and you will feel bad and this is kind of an old-school concept this is a concept that you can find going back to the ancient Greeks also going back to Buddhist ideas and classic Hindu ideas from you know from texts like the Upanishads and and that kind of stuff the bhagavad-gita and basically you know they talk about they talk about living a good life and the Greeks talked about living a good life living a virtuous life and the reason they were so hot on that and the reason we aren't so hot on it today as a culture is because well because they realize that this is the true path to happiness and that the stuff that usually we think will work doesn't work and the stuff that consumer society tells us will make us happy doesn't actually make us happy and you know the ancient seers the ancient sages they realize this and they try to teach it to the masses but the masses tend to rebel and not want it they don't want the wisdom and so they tend to kind of go and do the easy stuff that they think will give them pleasure in titillation and make them feel good and then that ends up backfiring on them and then what happens is they come back crying to the sages and ask us why did that hurt me so bad why don't I feel good da da da da how do I feel better and the sage will say well I told you live a good life and you feel good live a bad life and you will feel bad so I'm going to introduce two terms to you these are two sanskrit terms that I got from Eknath s Ferran who was a scholar on ancient Hindu texts and Buddhist texts and basically there's this ancient idea from from the Hindus I think this comes from the Upanishads it's written in Sanskrit to Sanskrit words one is called preah and the other one shreya pray with a pea shreya with an SH so what is this preah is pleasure its immediate gratification it's the pleasure principle it's the stuff that feels good right now preah is eating a big chunk of chocolate fudge cake preah is going on a rollercoaster ride priya is going to Disneyland and eating some hot dogs and having fun like with the kids right priya is having ridiculous sex amazing ridiculous sex preah is eating those barbeque ribs pray is alcohol priya is recreational drugs priya is winning the lottery priya is you know being lucky and something kind of falling on your lap or getting getting some big chunk of money like a windfall so that's Priya immediate gratification what is shreya SH shreya is doing the right thing the thing that has lasting benefit what has lasting benefit does that chocolate fudge cake have lasting benefit probably not do those recreational drugs have lasting benefit are they the right thing to be doing is that living the good life probably not right and this applies to all the other preyas out there so a lot of us are really caught up in the preyas and I'm not doing enough shreya shreya is the long-term stuff that's good for us priya is the short-term stuff that's bad for us so we're doing too much short-term stuff thinking this can satisfy us right we think the television will satisfy us the movies the girlfriend the boyfriend the drugs the food the whatever other addiction you've got the Internet right we think those things will really satisfy us and that mix is very confused and so ultimately we think well but isn't that isn't that the way to get maximum happiness is to go after the stuff that is giving us the most pleasure and you know you might think that but that's a naive notion of happiness it's really naive if that could be done I would do it all right I have nothing I have no real moral compunctions against drugs or just you know greasy food or against sex or like anything else that's immediately gratifying I have nothing against it and I've partaken in all that myself so the question now is but will that make you happy will that make you feel good and what you recognize after you try that for a bit is that it won't right and that the reason the sages the reason the cedars and all the wise men of thousands of years ago tell us to do the right thing and to live a good life is because they they can see what's going to happen they can see what's going to happen when the instant gratification kind of leads us off a cliff to our doom they can see that's going to that's going to come and maybe you don't see that right now you know you have to see it in your own life too you have to become a sage within your own life and see that to feel good in your life if you've walked consistent high quality good feelings then it's not the the easy stimulating stuff they have to be going after it's the more ethereal long-term you might even say spiritual kind of values they have to be going after it's that stuff that's going to make you fulfilled his status that's gonna make you really feel good and what does that mean that means hard work you know all the classic values hard work and like honesty and discipline and and like loyalty and and like exhibiting love and being excellent at what you do and like being generous and giving back to the world and being compassionate like all of these classic values that sound kind of so lame but without that I mean they're classic for a reason without them you literally will not feel good not going to be possible so you have to start to really challenge your own naive notion of happiness until you do that then you're going to be going after the short-term stimulating stuff and that's not going to going to work if it did work then I would be up here telling you to do all that stuff and I would be doing it myself because ultimately I'm about maximizing my happiness and to maximize my happiness I found out that it's not going to work through these these little short-term fixes and little hits of stimulation that I'm getting I'm gonna have to go all-out much deeper think more like a like a sage than like a drug addict right who's more happier a sage or drug addict interesting question okay so the next point is you know what is an advanced notion of happiness well in advance notion of happiness is actually hard work and discipline and it's working towards something that you value and that what you're working towards is something that benefits the rest of humanity so ultimately your greatest satisfaction is going to come from personal growth in your own life and contribution giving back to the world and contribution can take form in so many ways you can start a business you can have a career that contributes you know you could be contributing with your volunteer time or your hobbies or whatever but ultimately I would encourage you to get your business in your career in line with contribution and also your personal growth so if you're growing personally and you're contributing to the world that is what's going to make you feel good that's how you make become a solidly grounded feel-good type of person right that's getting you a consistent even-keeled happiness like steady rock-solid rather than this kind of spiky up-and-down roller coaster that you're going through right now which even the happiness that you are getting from that it's a low level of happiness it can't even compare it's not even on the same scale it won't register on the same scale has the kind of happiness you get when you for example create a business that actually helps millions of people or when you are working in a career where you get to help even a couple of individual people but you really get to help them and you get to like share your gifts with them share your knowledge or expertise or you know some of your talents through through your business or your career like that mm-hm that's real happiness so it's getting your life on track with that right it's the principle of right action also the principle of that right action states that you do what is right regardless of what you feel like in the moment and if you're not feeling very happy in your life then it's probably because you're you're slacking on this it's because you know that there are right things you should be doing the good stuff the Shreyas right the things that are giving you lasting benefit but you're not actually doing them because of the immediate gratification that you're getting from from kind of the comfort layer that you're wanting to have the immediate pleasure so a perfect example you know go to the gym you know you should but you don't because well you think that slacking on your couch is going to make you feel happier than going through the discipline and kind of the effort involved with getting your ass up and going to the gym but actually going to the GM is what's going to make you happy that's what's going to make you feel good not go to the gym that's gonna make you feel bad even though it seems like it'll make you feel good in the short term so starting to take right action be very disciplined about this principle of right action so how do you start how do you start to turn her life around especially maybe if you're in a place where you know you've got a lot of these preyas preying on you mm-hmm and and you want to get more into the shreya territory how do you do that okay so here's a here's a couple of ways I'm going to give you basically ways to start building good habits that's what you've got to start doing right now you've got bad habits habits that are holding you down they're making you feel miserable and what you want to start doing is to replace those replace them with good habits what are some good habits meditation taking time by yourself I call that solitude time to sit introspect and contemplate journalling another awesome habit sit down and start writing your thoughts out on paper reading awesome powerful habit for personal development and growth and make yourself feel good studying by that I mean not just reading but actually going out and actively researching some topic that you're interested in something related to your career or maybe a side hobby that you have studying or your own personal development work hard hard work towards something that's actually productive and meaningful that's one of the most powerful habits you can happen have and in fact it's almost like a spiritual habit this was a spiritual discipline thousands of years ago it's hard work right and that's for a reason and the reason is because when you're working hard you get into a state of flow and you start to feel a kind of a disassociation with your lower self basically you start to feel the higher quality W the humanity inside you come forward and that feels amazing so hard work Jim definitely encourage that excellent form of exercise at Yoga Jim do that eating right eating healthy also very important if your diet is horrible then you're going to have a hard time establishing other positive habits addictions definitely eliminate any kind of addictions that you have whether it's stuff like television internet sugar food shopping you know there's a whole list of them and I have videos about eliminating addictions and the importance of that and then the last point I would make is a eliminate and weed out negative foss you have to weed out the negative thoughts that keep coming up in your mind if you're always thinking negatively it turns into a habit as well right it's a negative thinking habit and you have to start to shift that and turn it into a positive thinking have it and that can take some work so I'm not going to go into all the details of that there but here are some good ideas for you how to start feeling good in your life you have to make the shift and initially when you do make the shift it will be painful if you're hooked on drugs if you're hooked on shopping on television on internet on video games anything others kind of stuff you're doing stuff that's giving you Media gratification is going to be hard to wean yourself off of it but you know at some point it kind of you reach a tipping point and you start to realize that the stuff you've been doing doesn't work and that it's making you feel bad and you really want to feel consistently good and when the point when you realize that is the point where you really start to expand your horizons it's the point where really your personal growth starts to take off that's what it happens and then you start to slowly through a painful process you start to put in some of these good habits and then eventually those good habits crystallize they solidify within you and then you start to run kind of on autopilot and now what you're running on autopilot but on good habits rather than the bad habits that you run on a pilot on right now and when you get there then you will start to feel good so here what I did is I didn't give you some sort of a little magic pill for how to feel good I gave you the you know classic ancient wisdom with a little bit of a modern spin on it about how to practically make this happen modern personal development ideas but ultimately you know the states back thousands of years and that's because it's true and you know that the stuff you've been doing right now you got to cut out because it's been making you feel bad so that's it that's how to feel good I'm signing off go ahead post me your comments down below please like this and share this click the like button right now and go ahead and then if you do like this you'll probably like 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